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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Telling guests in a joking way to keep their little monsters at home = fine.  Calling other family members/guests out (and disinviting them) for inquiring about bringing children or labeling the guests as "cheap" for asking if there would be a baby sitting room provided = not cool.

He could have gotten his message across in a humored way but instead chose to be snippy (bratty) about it.  I probably would not go.[/quote]

I agree. It started off as being [b]semi-funny/sarcastic/[/b]an attempt to defuse, and then went much too far and got attacking/offensice[/quote]

Yeah and if he hadn't made it VERY CLEAR, someone would have still brought their kids and pouted that they 'thought it was fine'. Happens all the time. [/quote]

How is a post that says, 'just wanted to clarify since we had gotten some questions that this is an adults only party and we won't be providing any childcare. Thanks hope to see you there!' unclear?[/quote]

Imagine this.

Aunt Mindy A: Oh, okay so no babysitters that's fine. Toddler A can sit in my lap and sulky pre-tween B can hang out on the edge with soda. 
Uncle Jack A: Honey, I think he means no kids at all.
Aunt Mindy A: He didn't say that! He just said he's not providing services and besides our babies are angels and we're FAMILY.
Uncle Jack A: ...
Aunt Mindy A: You agree right?
Uncle Jack A: Yeah, fine whatever.
Aunt Mindy: Besides we're only going to be there an hour at most. It's good for the whole family to support him. 
Uncle Jack A: Uh-huh.

Tell me you haven't seen your family show up with squalling brats at weddings, parties, and barbecues. It's fine if they're invited, super not if the host doesn't want them there.[/quote]

Did you read my post? It says 'adults only. '

Honestly if you bring small children to a 21st birthday party I'm pretty sure there will be some immediate natural consequences. [/quote]

The host had already said it's ADULTS ONLY. Guess what? People kept pushing.

[b]Don't forget that the original invitation wasn't worded that way and was apparently completely appropriate. And then people checked that it was fine to bring kids to a coming-of-age drinking party that the OP acknowledges the hosts were "going all out for". So they said no. And then people were suggesting that since they weren't allowed at the party, then the host should pay to set up another party for the kids. And then he said no. Or the hosts should at least have a babysitter there to mind the kids.[/b] [/quote]

I haven't read the original invitation? Did op post it? But fine how about this.

"Hi everyone. We've had some questions so we want to clarify that this is an adults only party. Because there will be a lot of alcohol we will not be allowing anyone under the age of 21 to enter the party. We are unfortunately going to have to be very strict about this. We also are unable to provide childcare. We hope this won't stop anyone from celebrating with us and can't wait to see you all next month!'[/quote]

You can't say the think about the reason being the alcohol, otherwise you'd get responses like, "But surely you didn't mean little Larlo? He sees us drinking all the time, he's used to it. There's nothing he will be shocked by! And nobody is going to think he's 21 and serve him alcohol, so don't worry about that! He's 5 years old for pete's sake! And BirthdayGirl is his favorite Aunty! We've already told him that she's having a party! He loves parties! It would break his heart to miss it! He will just dance a bit and be cute, and we'll only stay an hour or two at the most. It will be fine, I promise. Nobody will even know he's there." Some people are oblivious. I mean, anyone stupid enough to seriously consider taking a child to such a party is by definition too stupid to understand your more-clear-but-still-inviting-exceptions-from-entitled-people clarification.

The fact is, they don't want children there because they can't think of anything worse than having children there. There aren't really any non-offensive ways to say that. Someone is always going to be offended, so he thought he'd try to be funny and at least amuse the majority of invitees.
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