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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you’re wife isn’t having sex with you she feels no connection to you and most of all has no respect for you.  In her eyes you’re not worthy to her.  Woman have an innate ability to classify males as ones they want to sleep with and others they keep around as friends.  The friends don’t stand a chance and are usually just obiters that hover around and hope they can get some action.  They never do.

If you’re a husband who isn’t having sex you’re classified as one of them.  Just s little above or below her brothers.  She loves you probably, she just doesn’t view you as mating material to put it simply.  It’s rare that a woman loses her desire for sex all together, it’s just sexual with you.  You don’t think for one second given the opportunity to sleep with an attractive fit man and not get caught is an option she wouldn’t do it?  Absolutely she would.  And if she’s not having sex with you there’s a danger of that happening. Desire isn’t negotiable - you can’t talk your way into her getting that for you.

Do what others have said, work on and improve yourself.  Get in shape, work out, find a social circle to hang out with and make time for yourself and going out.  Start doing activities where the likelihood of meeting attractive women increased.  Take a salsa class, women love a man who can dance.  Chat women upnand flirt.  Change your wardrobe.  Get clothes that fit well and show off your physical strengths.  Have big arms?  Wear polo shorts that enhance your arms.  If your slimmer, buy slim fit or modern fit shirts.  Get the proper pants size so they’re not too big or long.  Drop the white sneakers and get a couple of pairs of shoes that are stylish and comfortable.  Black and brown.  Match belt and shoes.  Take pride in your appearance  and dress nice, not talking suits every day, but your casual wear.  How do you feel when you meet a slob?  You don’t want to judge but we do, and women in particular do.

That’s my advice, at this point if she gets mad at you for going out with friends, taking time for yourself what is she going to do?  Get mad and withdraw sex?  Well that’s no longer a bargaining chip so do what you want.  If you initiate - and I hope you at least try - it won’t turn out successfully all the time.  Say ok, then go off and do something you need to do.  I try to initiate in the morning, wife says no I’m out to the gym.  I was probably going to go anyways but hey, now I get there earlier.  Something like that. [/quote]

Good advice. (although I think the word connection is a bs word for the tingles.) You are right, once the sex chip is gone she has no real hand to play in steering the relationship to where she wants it to go. [/quote]

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