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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OK, am I the only one who doesn't understand WTF is going on with the term "mama"? Literally NO ONE I HAVE EVER KNOWN has called their mom anything but Mom or Mommy as a kid. What is all this Mama shit?[/quote]

It is, believe it or not, a trend among white, upper middle class women (no idea if this describes OP or not). https://longreads.com/2015/05/10/the-rise-of-mama/[/quote]

Haha. This is hilarious. I've heard it but not "mama" in this sense- more like "Big Momma"[/quote]

I have never, ever heard a woman happily accept being called "Big Mama".  Unless the grandmother has suggested herself that her grand kids call her that, I do not think it's safe to assume that she would be up for that nickname.

Also, once kids hit elementary school most of them are calling their mothers Mom.  Not Mommy, not Mama.  Just plain old Mom.

My kids went from Ma-ma as a baby, Mommy as toddler/preschooler and Mom from elementary up.[/quote]

Big Mama makes me think of Cat on a Hot Tin Roof. Perhaps it's a mid-century southern affectation?[/quote]

Most southern belles would not welcome the thought of being referred to as "Big Mama".  So I don't think you can consider it an endearing southern tradition to call the ladies of the family "Big Mama". It's not a compliment unless the grandma in question has asked to be called that.   [/quote]

I don't consider it as such. It's also not currently the mid-century. Both my mother and my MIL would think it was completely freakish and off-putting if I started calling them that, because it sounds pretty redneck. As I said, I do associate it with Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, and I assume Tennessee Williams got it from somewhere.[/quote]

Yes, maybe that's where it comes from.  But it comes across as a pointed insult to call a grandmother or random mother that out of the blue.  If you walked up to another mom in the preschool pick up line and said "Hey, how's it going Big Mama" she would probably not appreciate it too much.[/quote]
So we're back to calling people what they would prefer to be called. Mama X it is ![/quote]

For me, that would be fine.  But if Op's child is calling Op Mama then I can see how it would be annoying to have the child calling Grandma "Mama X".

I can just see it.  The child wakes up from a nap and calls "Mama!".  Mama X goes running towards the crib, heading Op off.  Mama X looks at Op and says "Oh, I thought the baby was calling me".  And these little "mistakes" happen throughout the day  "Oh, I thought the baby was calling me to feed her/take her to the potty , etc"

So much depends on the specific MIL.  Of course, if Op is called Mommy then there shouldn't be an issue with Mama X.
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