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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same answer when it's a 27 year old female lawyer inviting out a 25 year old male paralegal?  Is it harassment the first time she asks him out?  Or just the second time?[/quote]

It's likely not harassment by the legal definition. But it's rude and invasive after the second time.  And most people with social skills would be able to assess whether the person was truly interested, or brushing them off, after the first invite.  [/quote]

See, this is where it gets frustrating for men reading here.  When people were assuming the scenario was an older male lawyer asking out a young female paralegal, most were ready to pillory him immediately.  But when it's a female lawyer, and they're both roughly the same age, the response changes.  Now this PP is making clear it's not actually [i]harassment[/i].  And it's only rude and invasive after the second time (so the [i]third[/i] time she asks him out??).

My point is not to defend pigs like Bill O'Reilly or Matt Lauer, or any other woman or man who abuses her power to coerce relationships.  I'm just saying that it paints with too broad and unrealistic a brush to insist that the difference between courtship and harassment is obvious.  In the real world, it's not obvious at all.  Signals get crossed; people are not clear about their intentions.  People also want attention from some, and not from others.  If a person I consider attractive strikes up a conversation while I'm reading at a coffee shop, I'm going to be flattered.  But if a person I consider annoying strikes up a conversation, I'm irritated.  It's not about the interruption or about the location, but rather about my changing interest.[/quote]

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