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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unless of course, you want to work. Or shop. Or vacation. Or see the doctor.

You do realize that large portion of sexual harassment happens with men with whom you don't actively choose to engage? Hell I got followed around CVS last night while I was buying toilet paper by a homeless dude in my neighborhood. He likes to stand on the corner licking his lips and staring at me when I drink my coffee outside on the patio after a workout. Any advice on "completely cutting out" this guy? Why is the reality of what women experience so hard for people to accept?[/quote]

Liberals let the insane out of the nuthouses.  Not my problem.[/quote]

What does that statement even mean? Noted liberal Ronald Reagan did cut funding for mental health care, but that was decades ago.

And to the woman living near the homeless guy: either move or get _your_ neighborhood's problem solved. Why are you whining here about homeless guys?[/quote]

Hahaha solve the problem of homelessness in DC or buy another home. Super solutions, genius. Also follow the thread if you don't understand the context of my response. [/quote]

OR call the cops. YOU brought up the subject of a homeless guy.

Now the thread is about harassment of women in general, and unfortunately a running theme is "men need to...". The problem with that is generally speaking, men don't need to do anything. Most of us, most of the time, are going about our lives and not likely to be penalized for harassing anyone. I have no realistic incentive to do anything differently.

So Charlie Rose needs to do something.  "Men" don't. There isn't a meeting of all men where we decide how to behave towards women. Women need to do something because women have the problem. Lawsuits, pepper spray, boycotts, something. Now what that something is is a topic to discuss. "Men need to ..." what? Talk to homeless people or Harvey Weinstein? Not realistic.

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No one thinks any blanket group needs to change. But suggesting that this is a woman's problem to solve is a cop out of the highest proportion. Do you really think that this nonsense would still exist if we could just snap our fingers and make it go away? So women around the world are staying in bad jobs, bad relationships, and altering our routes home because...we want to? Just stop. Really, stop. "Men" don't need to do anything. Men who harass, encourage harassers directly, encourage harassers with their silence, or are too clueless to understand the problem (looking at you)? You bet your ass they need to do something.

People like you who dig in on issues like this are usually doing so for very personal, very dysfunctional reasons. You're a lost cause, clearly. I don't take it personally. But you're on the wrong side with this one. [/quote]

I'm not the PP, but I think women have this idea that men are constantly observing other men harassing and assaulting women, or bragging about it, and "doing nothing about it." But that has not been the case for me. I've literally never seen anything that looked like a rape, sexual assault, etc., or heard anyone bragging about anything that sounded like it. I'm not saying that it isn't a widespread problem. I'm just saying that the assumption that men are just looking the other way isn't really accurate either. [/quote]

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