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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I used to plan my walk routes from school such that I'd have the least chance of walking past men. I'd even cross the street if I saw a group of guys on the next block. We're talking a middle school to high school.

I thought getting married (that is wearing a wedding band) would help but some men don't care. Not long ago when I was 8 months pregnant a man asked me out. I looked at my heavily pregnant belly and looked at him, like he was crazy. I told him I was married and that man happened to be father of my nearly full term baby. He  persisted and said we should "run away together".  I'm grateful that I haven't had any negative experiences at my place of work and I truly pray that doesn't change. [/quote]

As a woman I fail to see how did this guy harass you. Did he stalk you, call you, text you, or touch you inappropriately? If yes than we can talk about harassment. What I see is that he is someone who is desperate, sad, immature, and with bad manners. If anything he is a truly sad sap, not someone to be afraid of.
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I think you have a different definition of harassment and I suppose many people do. If I were being stalked I wouldn't consider that harassment...that would be, well stalking (it is a distinct crime and subject to criminal charges that are different from harassment).

Bad manners is picking your teeth at dinner and spitting on the floor. Continuing to HARASSS a woman who has told you that your actions are inappropriate is just that: harassment.

I think some of the responses reflect differences in cultural norms and social expectations. There are behaviors I find reprehensible but have dealt with because I am a human female but I certainly don't diminish the fact that such behavior is deeply problematic [/quote]

Well, I am sure that women who undergo genital mutilation as babies in Somalia, those forced into marriage at 10-years-old in Yemen, those sold into sexual slavery in the Islamic territory, those raped by the decree of a village council in Pakistan, would not agree with you. In the most free country in the world you are trying to redefine normal human behavior into something criminal.
If words offend you, call police. Simple as that.[/quote]

You think suggesting to a married full-term pregnant women that you should "run away together" is normal behavior?  :shock: [/quote]

It indicates that he is super sad and pathetic. It indicates someone who had no role model in his life. It indicates someone who never experienced love or a normal relationship. It indicates someone who lacks morals. It indicates someone lonely and of low IQ.
He used words, right? He suggested things, right? 
As far as I understood from the post he did not stalk, force, or touch the married woman. He did not force her to do anything. He did not even force her to listen to him. At all times she could have blocked his number, email, social media, etc. She could have told her husband and other people and ask them to talk to him to leave her alone. At all times she had full freedom to call police and prevent him from speaking.
There are so many options for women not to be offended by words in this most free country in the world.

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He approached a clearly pregnant, clearly married woman and tried to convince her to run off with him. He should never have approached her in the first place. [b]Him approaching her is harassment[/b]. She was just going about her business, leave her the f*&k alone![/quote]

I absolutely ashore him approaching her. But I also abhor people like you who want to police other people's thoughts and words. Who want to criminalize thoughts, words, and feelings. Who want to expand the definition of harassment to include free thoughts and speech, something that this country was built upon.
Honestly, I am more afraid of people like you than of a homeless guy following me.[/quote]

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