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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Holy hell. Now we're saying 33 is old to have a first child?[/quote]
NP here, I wouldn't say old but definitely not young.
That poster said she felt she has time on her side, I think that's crazy,[/quote]

I think 33 is oldish to have a first child. I wouldn't want to wait that long. Obviously lots of women do and it often is fine, but I would feel old af having my first kid at that age. [/quote]
It's often fine at 40 and 19, and many other ages too. In fact it's usually fine. Not everyone has the luxury of perfectly timing when they start their families. But I guess people like you will smugly look down their noses at anyone who made a different choice than you. What's it like to live with that level of insecurity on a regular basis?[/quote]
+1

Anytime is a great time to have a healthy pregnancy, if it happens to work out that way.

I will be 35 this year, have an almost 2.5 year old, and didn't feel ready for another baby until just recently. I nervously scheduled a routine OB visit to see if I was "all systems go" for another pregnancy and was reassured that [b]some of you call a "geriatric" pregnancy at 35/36 [/b]wouldn't be treated much differently than my pregnancy at age 31/32. My provider said one of the only major differences would be that insurance would cover cell-free DNA testing since I would be AMA and that extra screening/testing would be offered if any early testing was abnormal.[/quote]

By "some of us" do you mean the medical/scientific community? Folks aren't just using that term to hurt your feelings, honey.[/quote]
No, I meant the DCUM community full of supposed "experts" who throw around terms like "geriatric pregnancy." Like some other kind poster wrote in my defense, I was reiterating the information provided to me by my OB, who is up to date on current research and ACOG guidelines. I also am a healthcare provider who uses evidence-based practice and a reasoned, unemotional approach to decision-making in my work and personal decisions. You're a real peach, though!

FWIW, maybe you'd like to marinate on this. It's a few years old, but the information is worth considering: [url]https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/[/url]
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Sorry I'm "throwing around" the term geriatric pregnancy correctly...?[/quote]
Not the quoted PP, but no, it's not correct. The correct term is "Advanced Maternal Age." But please don't let that interfere with your internet moralizing.[/quote]

Sheesh, this has really touched a nerve with the "advanced age" (is that better?) mothers! [/quote]

NP but why do you care so much how old people are when they choose to have their kids? How does it affect you in any way? [/quote]

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