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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yep.

If you want to invent a ton of busywork to be a martyr while your spouse handles everything that really needs to be done while also handling the children, knock yourself out.[/quote]

But you agreed that basically nothing on that list is actually busywork.  If a woman has to handle all of that (in addition to the daily chores, like childcare, laundry, cleaning, cooking), I have a hard time understanding what you're getting at.  We're not talking about you, we're talking about DHs who actually do nothing (which are many, as indicated by copious research and anecdote).  I have no idea what your wife did that you think that was "busywork" but more examples might be useful. [/quote]

You seem like a kind person. I'm not trying to argue or be a jerk.

When I was married, my wife and I split chores 50/50.  SHe's OCD about cleanliness so it wasn't 50/50 pre-kids. Dusting the guest bedroom and stuff was all her. (I consider that busywork and she didn't use that to one up me, so all ok). I did extra on the childcare post-kids to make it 50/50 so she could mop the storage closet and re-arrange the kids clothing drawers.

Everything else is my own personal complaints. You're right: no need to extrapolate beyond that. I live in a condo with extra bedrooms for my kids to visit three days a week. It doesn't take much time at all to keep it spotlessly clean when I'm by myself. [b]When the kids are with me, we have fun. When they're with their mom they clean and do yard work.[/b]  [/quote]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA omg. HOW are you not seeing this?! Read what you just wrote. THIS is exactly what we're all saying...[/quote]

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