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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just a different perspective-

Found our S was using pills that turned into heroin use. We had no idea. I was a SAHM and involved in my kids lives. He hid it well, grades were good but slowly started to isolate and had mood swings which signaled something was wrong. Found out about 5 weeks later just how bad things were. You could have knocked me over with a feather.

We sent him right away to an out of state rehab and he started to get help. Though I am very private my H felt comfortable sharing with close friends and family what was going on. I did not agree but understood that is he was coping.

Turns out once he reached out to others, to tell them what was going on in our family, people literally came out of the woodwork. It seemed like every single person we knew had been affected in some way by addiction. A relative, close friend, sibling...it was so prevalent, scary and really shocking as everyone hides behind this false front that all is well.

Some of our friends that shared with us really shocked us as they were the ones we thought were totally together. It did give us a sense of comfort to know we were not alone and it instantly gave us a group of people with whom to share when we were going through some really rough days.

That was 3 years ago, it was a bumpy ride for about a year (3 rehabs) but today he is back in college and will graduate in about a year. He is applying for dental school and has a wonderful gf who has been so supportive. He has adopted the 12 steps and attends meetings 4 times a week religiously.

We have supported him every step and it was not always east though these meetings he has met what he calls true lifelong friends who have his back and don't judge.

He is a great kid who got lost in the jungle of addiction. It happens to the best of them and recovery IS possible.[/quote]

Thank you for sharing.  I am also the mother of a former heroin addict and wrote about our experience a number of pages ago.

I do applaud your DH for telling people, but frankly I couldn't do it.  I think it would be very risky even within my family, which is pretty close knit.  My fear is that my child could be ostracized among all the cousins etc. as so many people think recovery is not possible.  I did not even tell a friend after her child died from heroin.

We did not go the rehab route as my child was asked to leave after the first few days for having a panic attack they couldn't deal with even though the rehab billed itself as dual diagnosis.  We ended up doing in home detox and child attended lots of NA and still attends and does a lot of service.  Child is now doing very well in college and has big plans for the future.

There are many roads to recovery.  However, what I think what is key to success for most is knowledgeable family involvement and support.  Your story clearly shows that as does ours.  Kicking children out of the house does not cure them of addiction; it just makes them a public charge. My friend whose son died on professional advice took this kind of tough love route and it ended tragically.  Unfortunately, positive family involvement is hard to buy with government funding.

There are unsung heroes who are taking in these kids and rehabilitating them.  My child knows one through NA.  He takes in young men whose families have thrown them out, detoxes them, gets them doing a lot of service in NA, and gives them provides them part-time jobs in a small business he owns.  Not all are succeed but many have recovered and gone on to be contributing members of society.

We need a lot more of these people, but, again, this isn't something government funding will get you.  NA accepts no money from any source except its members as part of its philosophy of self-reliance. [/quote]

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