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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I still wanna know how these "you can't date anyone for X years, I get to approve your new love interests" clauses even get into the divorce agreement. Why would anyone agree to that?[/quote]

You are deliberately mis-stating this clause.  Wach party can go out with whomever they want on their own time.  No one gets to "approve" love interests.  These clauses are signed because both parents acknowledge that it's in the best interests not to be introduced to boyfriends or girlfriends until a stable long term relationship has developed between the adults.   It's about putting the best interests of the child first.

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Exactly. I am struggling with this.  My STBXH began dating someone while we were still married (separated currently) and I have a strong suspicion he is intending to bring her and her children on a vacation with our child this summer.  We haven't even filed for divorce yet. And yes, I asked him explicitly if she is going/invited and he brushed me off with "We can talk about significant others after the divorce is final."

Well no, that's not how it works.  It is part of the parenting plan that will be submitted when we file.  He can date who he wishes on his own time, but when it comes to our child, this woman and her children should be introduced to our child gradually and in an age appropriate fashion - only if this is a long term relationship (now or planned for the future).

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You'd better get that one worked out. Plus you don't know if any of her kids are problem kids or what. I'd certainly look her up to see what I could find out.  I would make it clear your child is not going on a vacation with them. You said "we" file. That tells me he's probably taken advantage of you so he could get the upper hand. Why don't YOU file and get it all in writing asap.[/quote]

Oh no, I've met her and her kids. I had her over to dinner once a few years back and got to go on a "date" with her and my ex and all the kids last summer to a local attraction.

We're working on getting it into writing.  My lawyer is asking me to be patient re: filing, as it will be in my longterm interest to wait.

I think he and the OW are still together (though he's denied it all along. I'm like Comey- I have the receipts, literally), but I was laughing when I saw him looking at a dating app on his phone a few weeks ago.  I want to feel bad for this woman but nah. [/quote]

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