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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, I'm confused about a few things:
-could DH's family contributed to college and were holding back? It sounds like they went through tough times financially and couldn't pay the bill.  If that's so, then I wouldn't hold resentment against his parents for not paying for his college.
- It wasn't appropriate for his parent to call you and ask you to pay off his loans.  Were you married at the time?  If you were married, it's a reasonable decision for couples to decide to pay off all outstanding student loans together, regardless of what his family said.
- Is there more[/quote]

They couldn't have right then.  They could have paid his loans later, once the financial situation has stabilized.  His siblings basically threatened to cut off all contact with the family unless their tuition got paid - it got paid.  DH never did this and his tuition never got paid.

We were married.  But my problem is that I still feel that I took on what was essentially his parents' obligation.

Yeah, I basically feel that his family always viewed me as a cash cow.[/quote]

THEY didn't take advantage of you. It doesn't matter what your "culture" does, you're in the us now and college is funded lots of different ways.  YOU chose to cover his college expenses, they didn't force you.  Get help for your misdirected anger. It was your husbands obligation to get a college degree and he found the way to pay for it via you[/quote]

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