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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP.

If life and people were ideal, there would be no DCUM so let's not even go there. Ideally, there would be no affair at all.  Things are what they are. It's pointless to speculate on how things should be "ideally".  My DH made very bad choices.   There's no getting away from it. Having said this, the sun still rises every morning, so what do we do now?

Of course I have a say in how this presented to the kids. My daughter hasn't met her half-sister yet, so if I decide she shouldn't, she won't. My son worships me so if I wanted to make him hate his half-sister, I could accomplish that in one evening.  If I chose to prevent him from seeing his half-sister, I could do that or at least make a colossal deal out of it easily. I decide today how much of her he is allowed to see and under what context.  He's only six; no decisions made so far are cast in stone. They can be undone easily. [b] If I wanted to impoverish the family [/b]and stress everyone around that, I could again do so easily.

I am not saying this to say I would intentionally introduce this sort of strife into my kids' life, just to point out that there are many things I could do, and what I do do, I choose to do. My choices may be different from yours, but I am making them from a fully empowered position.  [/quote]

I guess many of us are wondering why you believe your husband is suddenly going to do things the way you want them done, when he didn't seem to be considering you at all before. What's to stop him from adding DD to the visits?[/quote]

The fear of divorce, poverty, and complete crumbling of his family. [/quote]
He knows he can do what he wants, she hasn't left him yet.
she never will.[/quote]

EXACTLY, PP.
This sentence speaks VOLUMES & now I get why she doesn't leave.

She speaks of being in an empowered position, however it seems like she's not empowered financially enough on her own to leave.

Sad.

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