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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think we need more Sheryl Sandbergs in this world, from all backgrounds. And we all need to look for them and lift them up. What is the point in tearing her down if she's sharing her truth? If it doesn't resonate with you, change the channel or pick up another book. [/quote]

Yes.
This post is part of the reason women haven't risen to the top in the workplace.  Everyone wants to cut down and poke holes in an aspiring lifting message from one of the most successful women in Corporate America  (through her own hard work- not through marriage or working for Dad).  This board is one excuse after another about what's holding women back from success or tearing down Sandberg's success.  We have enough to overcome from men, so shouldn't women pull together even more?  How about just looking at some of the VERY valid points in the book to help yourself like:
- pick and marry a good life partner (if you don't everything can fall apart.  true)
- Don't leave before you leave.  I've seen too many women mentally check out or start planning for part-time, while they are pregnant or even just thinking about starting a family.  You haven't even had the kid yet.  Who knows yet if you really want to stop working.
- attach yourself and become indispensable to bosses above you.  When you are their go-to person, they will pull you up with them.

Meanwhile, men pull each other up, look out for each other, overlook the negative, give each other breaks and second chances.
Many women, like me, who work in upper management, know we have to work almost twice as hard as men to overcome all the male... and female bullshit.
I wonder how much further we could go, if women truly supported and cheered for each other the way men do.[/quote]

+1000. It makes me so sad, whether it is a successful well known woman, or just the usual crapping on working moms or stay at home moms, DCUM is all about putting women down. If a successful woman like Sandberg has a message, it is shot down because it doesn't resonate with everyone, perfectly, in every stage of their life, and she can't possibly relate to the average woman, even though, for many years she WAS the average woman who achieved a great deal of success...which is the damn point of her book. [/quote]

ITA. I was a SAHM when I read her book, and I didn't feel threatened or pissed. Now, I'm working in a small office of women and I'm the one constantly reminding them (gently) that our women clients, vendors, friends aren't the enemies. It makes me sad. I'm not perfect, nor are my friends, and it's okay. We don't have to take everything so personally. [/quote]

I totally agree. This thread makes me sad. I remember when her husband died and reading things both here and in other places online where people were positively gleeful. It was gross. [/quote]

Yes. When men are out there doing Ted talks on success and how to get ahead, do we psychoanalyze how they got ahead, who helped them, what their home life situation is?  [/quote]

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