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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Christ people this thread is eyeopening.. 150k is NOT an absurd threshold at all!!! I don't think I know any guys making LESS than that and I'm in my late 20's.

Not trolling, just, wow- guess not many come from SF/NYC/Boston where that's completely normal.[/quote]

I agree. Basically op is just saying she wants to date a man with a professional job. In other words, some sort of office worker.

I dated a good bit before meeting and marrying my husband and almost every man I dated made this sort of salary by the time he was in his 30s

I highly doubt OP would turn down a resident doctor or someone in grad school, just started a business etc.  she just wants a motivated man with a college degree, which isn't that unusual.  [/quote]

This is OP.

The responses to this thread have been funny.

I am not expecting a 25 year old with a 150k salary. I am looking at men in their 30s. At least by 35 almost all men in the DC area make about much. From what I gather that is the minimum amount required in order to have a house, and provide for a child and a SAHM in this area. I want to stay with my kid at home for a few years and would need to depend on my husband and so he needs to be able to support that.

And honestly as a marriage minded woman, I am not seeking to be CEO. I earn enough to live, get a mani pedi and by my beauty products. With a husband, I will be more than okay.

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If you wanted the SAHM life an that salary you've missed the boat.  You have to lock a guy like that down in your 20's.  If you wanted to go the SAHM route and find that salary you should have dated one of these 30 yr old men and locked him down in your 20's.  If that's truly the lifestyle you want you need to bump your search up in age and start looking for a 40-45 yr old man who could provide that lifestyle or move to an area like Austin where COL is cheaper and there's still a lot of high earners like you're looking for.  Today's crop of 30 yr old men looking to find a SAHM are looking at women in their 20's.  You have to realize you're fishing in a very very small pond.  If you keep such narrow search parameters you need to realize you might not just put being a SAHM at risk but being a mother if you keep waiting for the dream guy that doesn't exist.     And no, most men by 35 in the DC area don't make 150k a year.  That's the wonderful thing about census data it's easy to see.  Only 25% of Households (not individual) make between 100k-200k in the DMV.  15% make 200k or more.

https://censusreporter.org/profiles/16000US1150000-washington-dc/

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Cut it out with the census data already.  Jesus Christ.  You people are relentless.  Someone who is a college educated professional (whether you count Op or not in that group is up to you) is not going to be dating in the bottom 50% most places you go.  INCLUDING HERE in DC.  Do you people have any friends who are not under-achieving college people?  These are the folks who never got a college education (I realize many people in trade jobs make a lot, we are talking many of the others), they never finished high school, they are living on government handout.  HELLO, DC?

Are you people suggesting she start dating the welfare recipients?  Someone who don't have a lick of college?

Ridiculous.  Just cut the BS already.[/quote]

The point of the data is that for every 100 men in DC that meet her desired age group, she's already eliminated 98.

Think of it this way:  there are about 450,000 men in the DC metro area age 30-39, meaning there are roughly 10,000 men in that age bracket that make her desired income.

Of that 10,000, let's conservatively assume half are married or in marriage track relationships.

She's down to a pool of 5,000 men. Then you'll need to filter out men that she will find unattractive for whatever reason and the pool shrinks further.

My guess is that the pool of eligible men that she would find desireable is probably around 2,000 in the DC area. Now, of those 2,000 men, how many of them are killing it on he dating scene and have no desire to settle down?  Good luck with that![/quote]

Seems like pretty decent odds to me.  Certainly better than the odds back in small town hometown.  [/quote]

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