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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyway, she admitted it was wrong to just quit, but she sort of had a breakdown and decided she was wasting her life. She wanted a career that is basically incongruent with our life (working in dangerous developing countries overseas instead of writing boring reports). I get it; I don't love my own job, but we have kids and bills and a life and choices we made. Sort of undoing a lot of things including selling the house, we are kind of screwed. I remember the adventure years. They were fun. We lived and traveled and spent 7 years before kids and our mutual decision to settle in DC and raise a family.

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This is a little off topic, but I'm a mom and I don't find working in developing dangerous countries incongruous with my family's life. When you look at the likelihood of an aid worker being killed or kidnapped while on a work trip, it is really low. The likelihood of getting in a fatal car accident on the Beltway is higher. Taking 3 or 4 2-week trips a year is also not incompatible with my family's life. Add those things together...I can do the work I trained for and I really like. Sure, your wife might need to decide to work in Jordan rather than Syria, or Nigeria rather than South Sudan...but I bet she can still find a job with some of the things that turn her on about working in really fragile places. I have, and all the moms I work with (basically my entire organization) have, too. All the best to you both.

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You are not OP's wife, and your risk tolerance for your family is not the same as theirs.[/quote]

Guess nobody should contribute any relevant personal experiences to an online discussion with strangers then! Better to speculate about OP's family than actually provide information about working in a field of interest. We don't know their risk tolerance in any detail so I don't see why we should assume they aren't willing to look into options with any travel component for the wife's next job.

I am not a PP on this thread, so I'll not defensive, I think the policing is harsh.[/quote]

You either missed or ignored the post where OP himself that his wife agreed that having a family was incongruous to living in a dangerous country. [/quote]

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