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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How I perceived this situation is that assuming the DW has been a responsible adult all along, it sounds extremely serious to get to a point where someone quits on the spot.  It would take an awful lot to drive me there.  I am reacting to the DW's "breakdown," as a PP said, as a much more serious thing than just having a bad day and impulsively quitting like a teenager might.  Health care plans are important, but in this situation, they aren't completely without options, and the DW was probably aware of that.   A spouse's mental health is also critical to the well-being of the family, and should be at the top of list of priorities, with as much importance as the finances.

As much as it is a crisis for a family when a job loss happens, if my spouse was at an emotional breaking point, I would have a hard time insisting they keep going back to that job.  It would have to be the spouse's "unilateral" choice to stay or go. People experience job losses all the time for all sorts of reasons.  It's a difficult but not insurmountable issue.

If you have an impulsive and irresponsible spouse, that's a problem you'll need to see a therapist about.[/quote]

No one has disagreed with OP's wife leaving her job if she was driven to that point.  What OP vented about and what most of us understand and sympathize with is that if this was building, she should have said something sooner about the stressful/harrassing/intolerable conditions to her husband and partner and they could have and should have discussed alternatives including her hunting for a job earlier or her quitting and how to handle the change of income, healthcare and balance.  Based on OP's follow-up that they had a long discussion, he agreed that she should look for another job, she agreed that she should go back to her job until they can find a better alternative and he agreed that she should look for counseling to help her cope, sounds like she never mentioned it, just bottled it all up inside and then had a bad "straw that broke the camel's back" day and reacted completely unexpectedly.  She waited until after she had resigned to actually say anything to her partner.  That's the key to the problem.  [/quote]

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