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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I are 15yrs apart and have been married for 14yrs now.  This topic comes up on DCUM every now and then and you get lots of ew's and posters pointing out old man physique, and how do you feel about caring for him in his old age when you are in your retirement years.

Here's my .02, there are no guarantees in life.  When we married I was 30 and he was 44.  We've had 14 great years, and both of us for now at least are healthy and fit.  No reason to think we both won't live another few decades.  At the same time, there is nothing to say that tomorrow I won't be stricken with cancer, or he won't drop dead of a heart attack or any other unforeseen horrible thing.

Knowing the odds are that he will die well before you, barring a major life event, do you want 30-40 loving years together?  With the divorce rate in this country, not many people get that.

The big key, of course, is children.  Be very clear together on your expectations and desires.  Have a good financial advisor in terms of ensuring that life insurance, long-term care insurance and other elements are in place.  Long-term care was the biggie for us.

Good luck.  [/quote]

OP here - thanks there is good advice here. While the age gap does present possible problems I shouldn't let it get in the way of first answering the bigger question "Is this the right man for me?" And am I the right woman for him? If he is the "one" then the age issue might fade away. [/quote]

OP, when you say "age issue," what do you mean? There will always be a difference, but I got the sense from your original post that you wondered if it could be an issue, not that there is one. Is there an issue besides your concern about the future? [/quote]

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