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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do Do with a Child of the Affair
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8122_affairchild.html
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WTF is this bullsh#$????????????????????? This website literally recommends actively trying to withhold a child from a biological father!!!! This website is nuts. The health of the marriage cannot be the ONLY consideration when making life choices. Holy hell! 
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In the case of a wife being the unfaithful spouse, I recommend keeping the child in the family. I know of no cases where trying to separate the wife from her child has led to the recovery of the marriage. But I know of many recoveries if there is absolutely no contact of the other man with his child.

In some cases, the other man doesn’t want anything to do with the child. Or, he may not even know that he is the father. In these cases, I do not recommend reaching out to him to help raise his child. But even if he wants to raise his child, I recommend that you do what you can to keep him away from your family.

Granted, this recommendation seems on the face of it to be very difficult to achieve, and even terribly misguided. Shouldn’t the child have the care of the natural father? In this case, I have found that the betrayed father can do a much better job raising the child as long as the marriage is successful. Children, in general, thrive in a marriage where a husband and wife love and care for each other. The imposition of the other man in their lives is a constant reminder of the suffering caused by the affair, and presents a very confusing parenting arrangement to the child. It would place the marriage under a great deal of pressure that the couple would eventually find intolerable. A loving and caring marriage would be very difficult to create under that condition.

If the other man is able to prove parentage, they may not have any choice in the matter. However, the law assumes that, in the case of a married couple, the husband is the father of any child born to the wife during the marriage. A couple dealing with the child of an affair should take full advantage of the legal situation, and say nothing to indicate that the husband is not the father of the child. Ideally, the affair would end without the wife ever telling the other man that she is pregnant and that the child might be his. However, if she has already told him, the couple must remember that they are under no obligation by law to provide DNA samples, unless so ordered by a court.[/quote][/quote]

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