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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think monogamy is an unrealistic goal. Yes, all guys have Walter Mitty dreams of bedding tons of babes but at the end of the day sharing your life with one special person is really nice albeit difficult to achieve. [b]What's very helpful is to have grown up in a home with loving and monogamous parents and seeing the positive effect it has on children.[/b] When you grow up in that environment you aspire for the same and, IMO, work hard to achieve the same goal. My DW and I both grew up in very happy homes and its always been part of our marriage DNA. We are very lucky and we know it. [/quote]

Understanding I am about to be a wet blanket...

You really don't know if your parents were monogamous.  If either one made a mistake over the course of a long marriage, whether one discovered it or not.  What you do know is your parents gave you a loving and stable home.  That is what is important, because that is what you saw and thrived in.

I say that because the expectation of monogamy or bust seems to cause just as much pain as it saves.  Every third thread on here is "he (sometimes she) cheated on me" followed by the chorus of "throw the bum out."  Not trying to minimize the pain of infidelity but trying to emphasize that what families need are love, stability but not necessarily exclusivity of sexcapades.

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