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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here with an update. It was ok, but I think my bad nerves turned him off. He could tell I was nervous. He told me about himself, he asked about me. He kept telling me to relax. I didn't tell him it was my first date in years. He told me what his interests are and what he looks for in women. I'm the complete opposite of that. At the end of the date he walked me to my car and gave me a handshake, not a hug, a handshake. He said he'll call, but I don't think he will. I guess I'm still not ready to date yet.[/quote]

If you want to get to know him better, the thing to do is to contact him.  Apologize for the nerves.  You can let him know it is your first post-divorce date.   Oh, and if you really suck like you said in an earlier post, let him know.  He will probably like that. :)[/quote]

Since you said you are the opposite of what he is looking for, not sure that it makes sense for you to follow-up.  So nerves aside, it may not have been a match anyway. As for relaxing more on the next date, I think having something to do might help.  I didn't think of it earlier but doesn't Stanford Grill have pool tables and some sort of video (like Wii) games?  Having something interactive (and hopefully fun) that doesn't require conversation the whole time might help.

Oh and your ex is a douche.  Don't let him get in your head.  Unless he has discovered the fountain of youth we all get older and don't look the same.  What's amazing to me is those couple that have been together 50 years and are still in love.  Yes, he was handsome is his uniform and you see grandma was a "stone cold fox" (I think that's the phrase I've heard) and over the years thy have weathered many ups and downs but still managed to stay together and really are each other's family and rock.  You want someone that will love you like that and that you can love like that.  Sadly your ex was not the man for the job.  I see that as a reflection on him, not you.  You can own whatever part of the relationship behavior with your ex that you think would follow you into another relationship, like if you picked someone that didn't have the same values, didn't stand up for yourself, didn't communicate well, was quick to anger, didn't compromise, didn't make time on your own for your SO.  That doesn't mean any of those things would have saved the marriage, but it's one of those maturity/lessons learned of how you want to go forward to increase the chances of the next one being successful.  Don't take on his selfishness and immaturity as a reflection of you,  and don't cast them onto the next guy assuming he will be like your ex.  Okay, officially of my soap box and my "I am women, hear me roar".  Wishing you the best in dating.  It's hard for everyone but it's important to keep being confident, fun, and yourself.[/quote]

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