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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If they choose to ignore and disrespect you, then they choose not to be allowed to have alone time with baby. If they choose to get in a snit over that and not see you/baby at all, that's their choice, too.

It is THEM choosing to not see you/not see the baby, not you. Too bad for them.

They suck.[/quote]

+1 This is a serious safety issue, not some minor preference you can easily ignore for a few hours every now and again. Tell them honestly why they are not allowed to babysit, with examples. What they do with that information is in their hands. If they want it badly enough, they'll agree to abide by your rules; if not, that's their choice and the consequences are theirs to deal with.[/quote]

That's the thing, there is no chance for them to just agree to abude by the rules anymore. DH and I are willing to revisit this in a few years but thats it. I tried to talk with both of them when the mashed potato incident occurred. I made my feelings very clear and told them if it continued they would lose my trust. MIL rolled her eyes. SIL told me to get over it and that her ILs fed her son food at that age too.[/quote]

Well there's your answer.

"MIL, SIL, we are happy to have you come visit us, but we aren't leaving the baby with you. You have chosen to ignore our rules and concerns, and even to laugh at us when we tried to talk to you about it. It's your choice--you are welcome to come over, or we can meet you somewhere. But you won't be watching the baby alone. If that means you won't be seeing us anymore, that is your choice, and we're sorry to hear it."[/quote]

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