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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I am a Hospice Minister and work with not only patients, but also with their families both before death and after.  People mourn in different ways.  People cope with loss in different ways.  Dating again or even remarriage is not indicative of the level of grief a person may be feeling, or of their love and commitment to their dead spouse.  This isn't about respecting the dead. It's a way for a deeply hurt spouse to cope and survive. Often a spouse who has no idea how to be alone.

I know it's hard. I see death and grief almost every day.  And on a more personal level, my best friend died three years ago and her husband began dating less than six months after her death.  It hurt.  But you have to shift your focus from judgment about how long he should grieve to compassion for him as he grieves in the only way he can right now. He is trying to fill a hole left by tremendous loss.  Be patient, loving, and understanding.  This is a long process.  I'm really sorry your friend died.  Wishing you peace. [/quote]

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