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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do you believe all of her "big" gifts are destined to be hand me downs?  Seems crappy. [/quote]

OP here - I never said I'd give her hand-me-downs as a gift, but I'm not going to go out and buy a new bike when there is a perfectly suitable one in the attic.  That wouldn't be a gift, just something that we make her own when its time for her to use it.  It also means that a bike, etc. is one less option for a "big" gift when it comes time for Christmas/Birthday.[/quote]

You should not make every big thing a hand-me down.  There is being frugal, and then there is being cheap and unfair.  Every bike she owns as a child should not be a hand-me down, regardless of the status of the bike in the attic.  And yes, I have two children that are 17 months apart. My youngest son always gets his own smaller bike or scooter.  You will send your younger daughter a clear message if EVERYTHING she gets was new and shiny for someone else.

As for parties and such, I have a friend whose child was born a few days after Christmas.  She just sends out the invites a lot earlier than usual.  If we are in town, we ALWAYS go to his birthday party.[/quote]

Eh, I'm the youngest of many more than 2.  it's not that big a deal, assuming the handmedowns are still in nice condition and stylish.  When she gets a bit bigger you can ask her "Would you rather get a new bike for your birthday, or use Larla's old bike and get a scooter?"  Bet she'll pick the old bike and new scooter.  One of the advantages of being the youngest is that the basics are already covered, so you can get her the "extras" for her presents.  Also, as they get older, the hand me down thing is less of an issue.  She may not be quite the same size as older sib or she'll have different interests, so will need different stuff.  Plus things get used up more by older kids, so there's just less to hand down.  It won't be that big an issue.  [/quote]

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