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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Laugh at him, tell him time passes. The less attention you give it, the faster it will go away. [/quote]

Why would you ever laugh at something that clearly bothers the child?[/quote]

To teach them that people laugh at you when you are ridiculous.

This is a case where being sympathetic, reading books etc feeds right into the drama.[/quote]

Vindictive, negative parenting styles aren't effective. Surely you know this? I feel really bad for any kids you're raising. [/quote]

My kids are all raised, well-adjusted members of society. Give empathy when needed, feeding into dramatics isn't helping them emotionally.[/quote]

This isn't dramatics. It's a kid expressing distress over a big, abstract concept (aging) that they can't quite wrap their head around. It's not ridiculous, it's developmentally normal and as a parent it's your job to help teach your kid the emotional and cognitive tools to work through these kinds of worries. Laughing at a kid who is feeling anxious just teaches them to feel ashamed and not seek help from their parent next time.

Congratulations on getting your kids to 18 without killing them, that doesn't mean you're an A+ parent. [/quote]

You need to stop taking everything that comes out of your kid's mouth quite so seriously. No wonder your poor kids have anxiety.  You look at kid, say something like well, everything gets older. And then leave it go. [/quote]

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