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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would never bring a step parent into my child's life. If anything were to happen to my DH, I would remain single until they were out of the house. [/quote]

You're assuming he dies. What if he's abusive and you choose to leave him? Would that change your answer at all? [/quote]

No, why would it? I might then be even more concerned that my kids needed my undivided attention. I'd also be concerned that about my "picker" and not want to subject them to future concern about abusive men in the house. [/quote]

+1000 I would never remarry until kids out of the house. I put my kids needs above my own though. [/quote]

I'm glad someone feels this way. I from the bottom of my soul do not get how parent's neglect to process that step parents - even ones with the best of intentions - end up making kids feel like they come second, like they are guests in their own home.

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As someone who was raised by a stepfather, I cannot from the bottom of my soul understand why people stereotype all step parents in such a dramatic and ignorant way. My own father abandoned us and went off to start a new family, and treated me with neglect. I didn't even come second and I was never invited into his home. But guess what. I understand that those flaws are because he's a dick, not because he's a biological father or step father. Just like my (step) dad is awesome, not because he's step or bio but because he's a good man. My life would be so much less rich without such a wonderful man and role model in my life. Not all steps are bad, just like not all bio parents are good, and not all dcum posters are logical or smart. [/quote]

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