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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why didn't you have this fight several weeks ago? Why did you even ask them their plans if you'd already established you guys weren't traveling?  Just let it go.

Why didn't you tell them "Oh, gosh, I wasn't inviting you, my bad! We're planning a small Thanskgiving this year since the baby is here, no overnight guests"?

As it stands, text back, "I believe we had agreed upon Friday--that's what works for us.  We need the weekend to ourselves. Can't wait to see you!"

Remind your DH that if he won't stand up to his family, you will, and it won't be pretty.  Even if he doesn't care who comes when, he should care about *your* feelings.[/quote]

If you go this route, then don't come back here in 5-10 years lamenting that your MIL and SIL never make time to get to know your son and acting sad that he doesn't have a close relationship with extended family.  There are boundaries to be set, but this one is so blindingly short-sighted and so very tight that people won't want to deal with such a drama queen.  This type of familial interaction is obnoxious and discourages them from trying to build relationships in the future.

Let them come and put them to work while they are visiting.
"MIL, can you hold the baby while I go to the bathroom?"
"SIL, the baby's napping, can you run to the store and pick up these things?"
"MIL, can you put the load in the hamper into the washing machine?  Your grandson goes through sleepers so fast, it's hard to keep up with him!"
"SIL, can you watch the baby on the playmat while I grab a quick shower?"

There are so many new parents that come on to DCUM complaining about not having enough time to eat, bathe and go to the bathroom.  Take advantage of having two extra adults in the house who can help you with the multi-tasking jobs enough so that you can get basics like eating, showering and bathroom breaks in.[/quote]

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