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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op I feel like you. 
It hurts that as we progress in life, I realize that a lot of friendships are simply about money. Even if it doesn't SEEM that way, it's true because of reciprocating. There are a few exceptions--really low maintenance people who maybe are more about trading favors. Watch the kids, help you move, join your wall painting, lend you a lawn mower.

We are on a 7 year plan to finish our debt. The faster we can do that, the better for everyone.  It might happen sooner too.

I feel like our social budget has no place in our lives currently, including sprucing up the house so it's better for entertainment. (Or alternatively getting a regular babysitter and going out with those friends).

+if we do have a little extra cash, it's not consistent. Certainly not enough to keep a few friendships going regularly.

I don't think I have a solution. I get it...reciprocating is important to everyone. But it's a time in our life we feel friendless. [/quote]

It does not have to ev about money. You can invite people to your house without sprucing up. Make a lasagna, throw hotdogs on the grill and get buns, and a tray of cookies. Done. Doesn't have to be a big exoensive thing. We host people all the time in our small house, we can seat max 8 people at the dining room table and it's tight. So we do smaller parties or invite people when it wasn't and sit outside. We did smores with a bunch of neighbors. That was  bag of marshmallows, box of graham crackers and some chocolate bars. Probably $15 total. And some water/tea. Granted we have a fire pit thing already and we burned sticks. [/quote]

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