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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op I feel like you. 
It hurts that as we progress in life, I realize that a lot of friendships are simply about money. Even if it doesn't SEEM that way, it's true because of reciprocating. There are a few exceptions--really low maintenance people who maybe are more about trading favors. Watch the kids, help you move, join your wall painting, lend you a lawn mower.

We are on a 7 year plan to finish our debt. The faster we can do that, the better for everyone.  It might happen sooner too.

I feel like our social budget has no place in our lives currently, including sprucing up the house so it's better for entertainment. (Or alternatively getting a regular babysitter and going out with those friends).

+if we do have a little extra cash, it's not consistent. Certainly not enough to keep a few friendships going regularly.

I don't think I have a solution. I get it...reciprocating is important to everyone. But it's a time in our life we feel friendless. [/quote]

Friendships are not about money. My best friend is broke and recently divorced. I hang out with her often and pay for her all the time. No big deal. The closest mom friend I have is a teacher with not much money. She is super thoughtful. I am mindful of her budget and do free/cheap activities with her and her child. We always have a good time. They come to our house all the time but we never go to theirs. When they come over, she often will bake cookies or bring some fruit to share.[/quote]

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