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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted earlier telling the OP that this was not a big deal.  And I stand by that.  At 7, 8, 9, 10?  Would you also uninvite then too?  What about 26?  Honestly, this stuff is very common and it is different from one day to the next.  And I think parents of toddlers and preschoolers have a hard time understanding how common it is and how important it is not to get too involved in these things.  Is it mean, sure, but managing it is a part of life.  I can tell you that this has happened to my child and we have used it as a chance to talk about how to handle these situations.  And my kid has also been the one to be doing the mean talk and I have used that as a chance to teach her about not doing that.  If another parent called me and said, "your daughter is being mean to mine," and their example was that my daughter said, "I don't like you.  You're not my friend,"  I would have a really hard time not laughing at the other parent.  I mean really.  Think about it all of you who are advocating for the OP to call the other parent and tell the other parent that the other kid is being mean.  Think about how you would honestly react if some parent you did not know called you and told you that your daughter was being mean.  Can you honestly say that your reaction would be to chastise your child?  Or would you be more apt to tell the other parent to tell their kid to tell your kid to eff off (figuratively speaking)?  Be honest.

I would not invite someone to a party that my daughter didn't like, but I would not uninvite a child in the circumstances that OP describes with only some "I don't like you(s)."  "You're not my friend." "You can't play with us." as the support for uninviting.  Honestly, if they were going to be together in camp for another thing, they would be bffs in a few days.  [/quote]

I completely disagree with you on this.   If a child is verbally being hostile to my child at camp, why one earth would my child she have to invite her to a social event?   I don't get it.

You ask if I'd feel the same if the girls were older -- 27?  Hmmm, let me think.   If at 27 I invite a coworker to a party, and later that day in the lunchroom she tells me "You can't sit here, I'm sitting with my real friend.  We don't like you.  Go away" -- I think I would uninvite HER to my party too!

If anpther parent calle dme to tell me my child was saying nasty things to her... I certainly would understand if my child wasn't being invited to that girl's party!  And you can bet I'd tell my daughter it was only what she had coming.  You can't be mean and nasty to "friends" and expect them to invite you to their birthday party.  Life just doesn't work that way.[/quote]

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