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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How would you handle a racial slur being made against your elementary aged child if the teacher didn't contact you and your child is upset? This is a white child being called the "N" word by an AA child, he was also called other names. This was in the classroom while the kids were getting ready to sit on the carpet for a story. The child looked right at the other child and called the name -  I was careful to determine that my child didn't mishear or hear something that was just being said out loud. It was 100% said to my child.

Do I contact the parents, or the teacher, or go see the principle? Or do none of those and just counsel my child on how we don't say that to people and how it's not okay? My concern is that the other child is saying this to other kids and that kids will pick up on it and it will spread. Also concerned with how upset my child is.

Any thoughts on the best course of action or advice on what you would do in this situation?[/quote]

You should write a brief email directly to the principal, alerting him/ her to investigate the apparent bullying.[/quote]

DH just told me he caught the principle in the car pool line and mentioned it to her. She was "horrified" and began asking questions and jotting stuff down on her note pad. She's going to look into it. I didn't anticipate him running into her and saying something, but he did, so I guess it is handled now. Of course I'm concerned about backlash and my child being alienated or ostracized. [/quote]

I'm a black mom and my advice was to go into the classroom the following morning and speak with the teacher directly. That your DH was able to speak directly to the principal was excellent. No emails. Show up. Some things require a face to face. Now, you're hearing from a woman with no Facebook account, so I am a big fan of face-to-face with just about everything. He saw her face, saw how seriously she took it. That matters.

Don't worry about the backlash. Honestly, just don't. That other kid's mom...I can only imagine what she's going to do. It won't be taken lightly. Blame will be placed entirely on the person who spoke the word---not your child, the recipient. Rest easy.
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Thank you for this feedback. As a white woman I feel unable to navigate this... which is pretty crappy. We purposely didn't email anything last night because we weren't sure it was the right way to start a communication about what happened.

And yes, the other child's parents - I don't want to assume they wont be concerned or take this seriously. I also realllllyyyyy did not want to approach them myself. We haven't heard back from the principle, but DH assured me that she was taking the incident very seriously. [/quote]

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