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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's fine to say no to sharing sometimes for the reasons you mentioned.  However, I think the general etiquette in a public space like the park is that you share your toys with the other kids.  And also I think the park or playground are good places to practice and navigate social skills with peers, under your supervision.

So next time, bring more than one item, so that you can offer a consolation toy to the asker ("Sorry, we're using this one right now, but you could borrow this other one").  And try encouraging your son to use the toy together with the other child so that they can play together ("Do you want to show him how to use it so you can do it together?")

You can't be too nazi about your toys in a public space because, kids are kids and are still learning- they are not yet very good at taking turns, sharing, understanding ownership, and using manners when coveting another child's toy). If it's really something you don't want to share or want other children interrupting your play, I don't think you should be at the park, you should probably be in your own backyard.[/quote]

No. You are calling for an intervention any which way. Either the parent of the proposed sharer is supposed to intervene to say they need to share, or the parent of the kid that wants the toy should intervene that its not their toy. If you were saying let them work it out, I could understand. But the fact that kids don't get the rules yet is not an excuse to have the rules bend in the favor of the kid without the toy. If you're going to institute a rule by a parent, you'd think it should still follow normal social rules.

Furthermore, not everyone should be expected to have a nice big backyard.[/quote]

Or any backyard at all.

I think that all toys are not created equal.  A toy that several kids can play with at once is not the same as a toy that only one kid can play with at a time.  And a kid practicing a skill or playing with a parent should not have to hand over their stuff.  I teach my kid to follow the same rules that I do myself--always be polite, but it's okay to say no.  It's a good idea to share, and it's often more fun that way, but it's not mandatory.  Likewise, if someone doesn't want to share with you, go find something else to do.  [/quote]

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