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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The people who are saying the kid must share have bizarre viewpoints. People can ask to join in something, but they are under no obligation to let them. And expecting them to hand it right over is ridiculous. We don't expect this of adults, why would kids be expected to?

"Hey, you look like you're having fun with that soccer ball man, can I borrow it?"

Also, did you miss the part where the kid is special needs?[/quote]

This is my thought as well.  Others can ask to share, the answer may be no.

OP I think you're handling it fine.[/quote]

+1  Adults don't hand over their iPhones to anyone who wants to play a game on them.

I don't make my kid share her toys with anyone who asks.  With guests in our home, yes.  A toy that is actually public property, yes.  But if we take her scooter to the park and she's practicing and some kid wants a turn, my kid does not have to say yes.  She does have to be polite, and we do encourage her to share, but she does not have to.  And we teach her that sometimes other kids won't want to share with her, and she needs to accept that politely, too, and find something else to play with.

Also, playing with the other kid is not the same as letting the other kid have a turn.  She's very likely to agree to let another kid play catch with her, less likely to just hand over her ball to someone else.  If the OP and her son are playing catch, it might make more sense to have another kid join.  It does not make a lot of sense to let another kid ride his bike when he's trying to practice.  [/quote]

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