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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I will strongly urge my DD and any future DIL to go back to work."

As a WOH, I think you should leave your daughter and future DIL alone to make their own decisions with their spouses. [/quote]

of course they will make their own decisions, but they don't have the wisdom of experience.  When I was working and told people I was going to stay at home, without exception the women were all like "don't do it" and the men were all "that's great."

I didn't really understand at the time why the women were against it and the men seemed to think it was fine.  The reason the women were against it was b/c they knew how hard it would be to come back from being unemployed.  [b]The men just wanted to be supportive.  They had no idea.[/b]  I now have knowledge and experience and I will absolutely make sure my DD and future DIL understand the implications of getting out of the workforce.  As I mentioned, I will do whatever I can to help them.  I didn't have anyone to (a) mentor me, or (b) help me at home (i.e. like grandparents who could come at a moments notice).  I didn't grow up in a family or even a town where moms worked unless they absolutely had to in a low-wage job.  I didn't have the role models or support and it lead me to the position I'm in now where I have very few options.  I do not want my DD or DIL to be in a position of no-options b/c they had lots of confidence they could get another job (which is easy when you HAVE a job) and then find out that the working world is quite hostile to women who opt out (more so in certain industries than others -- teaching and nursing dont' seem to have a problem with SAHMs coming back... other industries do).  It is my responsibility to share what I've learned with my DD and future DIL (should there be a DIL).

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That is an extremely generous reading of your colleagues' reactions, tbh.  Many, if not most, men know that "mommy-tracking" is derailing for a career, and that men benefit when women are derailed.[/quote]

But then so many wives of highly paid men stay home so I can see why they would say that when their colleagues make the same choice as their wives did. Like, good for you for opting out of the rat race and choosing something different. [/quote]

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