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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's ok to feel sad but I think it's consistent with the baby boomer generation and how they enjoy "me" time while they still can.  It's not that they do not want to see you or their grandkids but they just probably are satisfied and prefer your visits to them on your time. With a fix income they may choose to travel and do things with their friends something they couldn't do raising you.  Try sending a plane ticket and see if they turn that down.

My parents and in-laws are the same but if I need them to watch the kids then they will come and of course if I send them a ticket they accept the invitation.

The real losers are the kids. They miss out on getting to know their grandparents the way we did and about a generation much older than them.

I am ok with it now.  I want my parents to travel and do things with their friends.  As long as they are still doing those activities I know they are still healthy and mobile.  I think the alternative would be much worse.

To the pp who was disappointed in their parents not wanting to live in the basement, you shouldn't be.  It doesn't matter how fancy your basement is it's still a basement and it feels that way to your parents.  If you want to think about having accommodations for your parents as they age try finding something with a guest suite on the first floor so they don't feel like they are living below and there are no stairs to navigate.[/quote]

Well if you read my post you would have read that my parents were with me, physically present, when we looked at the house, and we discussed them using that floor entirely to themselves as they seem to uber value 100% privacy, and they said the basement was great.  It was only after the day we closed did they say something completely different.  If they didn't want to use the basement suite I sure wish they would have told me BEFORE we bought this house like I asked them.  It's the main reason I agreed to buy it and they knew that.[/quote]

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