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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My fifth grader is bummed because she has no one to hang out with over the next couple days of no school, and because she feels like she has few friends generally.  I sort of feel like there's a lot of girls in the neighborhood that are friends in part because their moms are friends, and they do childcare swaps, coordinate carpools for shared activities, have hung out together since they were young, etc.  I'm a friendly person and go out of my way to chit chat with other moms when I see them at things and to attend school events, but I work FT downtown, and I just haven't really established that kind of relationship with any of the other moms.  At this point, it seems like it's too late for that to help my daughter, as it seems like friendships are already kind of established.
She has one good friend, but she's busy the next couple of days, and is moving away at the end of the year anyway.  I texted another couple of moms this morning, but they said their daughter already had plans for the next couple of days.  I just feel like I somehow screwed up the social dynamics of elementary school (again!)  and this time its my daughter suffering.
Sigh.  Hoping middle school will be a fresh start, but fearing it will be even worse.  
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I don't think it is too late or has everything to do with you working.

It really has more to do with your own personality. If you are an outgoing, get to know people type of person, it doesn't matter if you work PT, Full time or not at all because you will get to know people at school events and out and about in the neighborhood.

Who is your DD the most friendly with of the neighborhood kids?  Start there because you don't want to invite a child out of the blue who your kid doesn't play with at school.  You might want to start with asking if a child can come over after school. This might mean you have to change your work schedule to accommodate.  Offer to drop the child off at home as well to make it easiest on the mom. Plan to spend a few minutes chatting with the mom as well. [/quote]

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