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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well. He did wait until he was out of town and sans baby to let loose, do you think it would be okay if he drank too much only when that was the case? Sounds like maybe he knows it isn't appropriate for a family man but he's having a pseudo -bachelor vacation where it wouldn't harm anyone?

He couldn't have done anything for you or your baby today regardless of how sober he was, [b]so I am a bit baffled by your vehemence.[/b][/quote]

OP here, I probably left out some critical information.  Shortly after college, in his 20s, DH got two DUIs and wound up serving some jail time.  To him this is ancient history to the point that he neglected to even tell me this until after we were married.  So, 1. that history scares me.  2. I tend to catastrophize a bit when I can't reach him.  It's irrational, but I have gotten the "someone you love dealy has just died suddenly" call, and he knows this about me.  I didn't need to be able to contact him because I needed him to do something for me.  I just wanted the "I'm alive" text after I knew he was out drinking in a high crime city.  That new dad who was walking home from bars in cap hill a few years ago and was jumped and is now permanently mentally disabled is the stuff my nightmares are made of.[/quote]

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