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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Doe she also have anxiety?  Is she taking any medication for it and/or depression?  If not, she should be.  My 13 yo DS suffers from ADHD/anxiety.  His father has ADHD/depression/anxiety.  I recognize your DD's behavior. If I can project from my own situation, it sounds like your DD doesn't so much want independence but to get away from a challenge.  The challenge could be just about anything and it could be a consistent challenge or a fleeting one.  It sounds like it was an impulsive decision.  She had reached a 'fight or flight' moment.  That is a fear/anxiety symptom significant enough to treat with medication. She should not be punished for it but helped to find a more appropriate response.

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Op here I think it may be a flight thing. I imagine it is overwhelming to got from no friends and hating life to tons of friends. Not to mention there has to be some disappointment in realizing that getting what you dream of (in her case friends) is not usually what you expected.
As for medicine she had tried two different antidepressants and had black box side effects both times. The Drs weren't supporting trying another until later in life.[/quote]

9:03 again.  You're right that what you 'dream' of isn't likely to make you happy.  That has to come from within.  I understand the issue with the SSRIs (assuming that's the class of anti-depressant she tried). You might keep Intuniv (guanfacine) in the back of your mind.  My DS initally took it for his ADHD (stimulants are problematic for him).  In ES, we didn't notice a lot of attentional improvements (unlike with the stimulants) but we saw no negative side effects other than some initial daytime drowsiness.  He seemed a little more 'settled' but not markedly.  He wasn't on it last year and did well in school.  This year, he started going off the rails.  Anxiety was bad but what was worse was that he couldn't get negative stuff out of his head.  He wasn't being bullied at school but any negative thing a kid said (and MS kids say a lot of shit), he'd take to heart.  He's got friends, he's really well liked, he's well supported in school.  But, he was really reactive and negative.  The psychiatrist suggested putting him on it again because it can improve emotional regulation - and it has even though he's not at a therapeutic dose for his weight.

My point is that there are other medications other than anti-depressants that can offer some benefit to your DD.  It's tough being 13 even if you aren't disadvantaged by anxiety.  You might look into the Ross Center http://www.rosscenter.com/ .  I know you're insurance hasn't kicked in but you can still call to get an appointment/waitlist.  Hugs.

You might also consider posting in the Special Needs forum.  Lots of great support and recommendations there.  [/quote]

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