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[quote=Anonymous]My philosophy is that outcomes are what matter most in life, so we do praise good outcomes and all privileges are tied to successfully meeting applicable standards. However, even if outcomes fall short we note and praise genuine effort. One thing I try not to praise the kids for, or even make a big deal of, is innate talent. I don't do "you're so smart", "you're so good at [sport, hobby, whatever]", "you're beautiful", etc. Instead I specify something under the child's control and express praise or appreciation for that. "Great job in that class (that she got an A in)", "I admire how much effort you're putting into studying (for a class where the grade is less than an A)", "good game/performance/artwork/new fashion." At least for my kids, when they feel like something is in their control they're motivated to show that they can do well at it, but if they think something is outside their influence they don't seem to consider the task worth expending any effort.[/quote]
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