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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe it's because I was raised in a generation where you were considered an adult at 18, and parents pushed you to be independent. I don't understand the entitlement so many express here, that they expect their moms to keep helping them and doing for them as adults. You're adults now. Your mom spent decades raising you and doing for you. Now anything she might be able to or willing to do for you is optional, a bonus, gravy. That's what being an adult is about. You accept what people have to offer, and the fact that at some point, the teat runs dry. [/quote]

OP here. That's just the rub. It drives me crazy when my mother wants a relationship that is meaningful when she doesn't want to do the work to have one. It's a two-way street, PP. There are times when I never, ever want to talk to my mother because of how unfeeling she has been during this. Usually, during the worst of things (complaining about not coming to my DD's birthday while I was sitting in a hospital with my dad in ICU with a limited chance of surviving but pulled through thank God). Other times, I think she's sort of clueless and is like "sorry about your problems. Not mine." Which is fine, but I can't have a real relationship with someone who doesn't care about the difficult time in my life. It's not entitlement to have this sort of expectation.[/quote]

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