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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How/why are kids learning to act like this though? You can't stop a problem until you can identify and deal with the cause. I'm at a bit of a loss. With DD4, who I unfortunately see has a tendency to act like this, I try to emphasize what it means to be a good friend as well as what kindness means and why it's important. Not sure it's working, but also not sure what else would help.[/quote]

Well, its powerful. Kids commonly like to figure out the extent of their own power. I think it starts when kids say things like "Mommy, I don't like you, which they do to test the reaction.  Also, as noted upthread, sometimes these kids have older siblings. [b]Finally, I don't like hearing it described all the time as "mean girl" behavior. Boys can be, and are often, just as prone to excluding and only wanting to play with one friend or ganging up. It so misogynistic to constantly refer to being mean as "girl behavior."[/quote][/b]

Oh FFS. Of course this is more prevalent among girls. If you are denying that little girls, older girls, and women are more likely to engage in verbal aggression, ganging up, excluding others, gossiping, etc., then you are burying your head in the sand. Boys (and men) tend to be more physically aggressive and have other undesirable behaviors, and people seem to be able to freely admit it and don't claim that it's sexist against men to acknowledge that it's so. Using the word "misogynistic" about this is over the top and inaccurate. Anyone who has ever been in a classroom knows that the behavior OP described is much, much more prevalent among the girls.[/quote]

Absolutely true. It is almost unheard of for boys in the 4-7 age range to intentionally exclude others and to say the kind of things that the OP describes. Anyone who has spent any time with children in this age range knows this.[/quote]

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