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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sit down and make a schedule. Set up a "work" schedule. From ___am to ___pm, he is working on his doctorate. You'll have no expectation that he's available. And from ___am to ___am and/or ___pm to ___pm, he is not working on his PhD and is taking care of baby, making dinner, spending down time with family, etc.

It might look something like this:
8-12noon -- Doctorate work 
12-2pm -- lunch, baby care while mom leaves
2-6pm-- Doctorate work 
6-8pm -- Dinner, family time
8--11pm -- Doctorate work

The point is that everyone knows when they're expected to be "on" for child care. The struggle you're having now is that you expect him to stop what he's doing to help out. Making a schedule ensures that everyone gets what they need--he knows he won't be interrupted, you know you can have some time on your own and you know there is dedicated family time. It's not perfect, and yes wouldn't it be ideal if you two could just go with the flow and take care of the baby? Sure , but that's not possible right now. So bring some order into the situation. Make a schedule. 
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I think this is a great idea. Work out a specific schedule that everyone can live with so expectations are clear.[/quote]

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