Reply to Can't go backward

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Can't go backward"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]How long have these feelings been going on?  Infatuation lasts typically three months to two years. It does get better, but you have to wait it out. I have a guy like this in my life and I'm at the stage now where I really do see him more as a friend and would rather do friend things than anyone else.

Also, compartmentalization is not good. It protects you from guilt but splits up your psyche in a way that is stressful. I do this too, and after years I'm exhausted from the feeling of having so many secrets, and not being able to tell anyone all of the truth. Except a therapist, which is why therapy might be helpful, just to be able to talk to someone about what's going on.

I think you just have to wait for time to pass and hope the feelings fade. She's actually very wise, recognizing that you're diverting energy from your marriages, and not wanting to engage in an affair. They are painful things, affairs. No one ever talks about their happy, fulfilling affair, right?  Too much secrecy and lies for that. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics