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[quote=Anonymous]OP. You did it once, you can do it again. Your MIL is not going to provide childcare. Line up a nanny or day care and that's the way it is. Don't argue, don't let her guilt you over it. Set your own limit. Once a month visits? Set aside a weekend, or an event, and invite them. The rest of the month, you are booked with work, child activities, etc. Tell them you are busy. Lie if you have to. Get your DH on board with this. Unfortunately, you may have to shut out some other relatives as well, limiting them to once a month visits, especially if they talk amongst themselves, but that's a small price to pay for your peace of mind. Stay strong, OP. You can do it!! 1.5 hours is far enough away that they won't be popping in every day on the spur of the moment. Tell them in no uncertain terms that they cannot just drop in!! Do not make exceptions and do not give in. If they stop in, tell them you are busy, did not plan for their visit, and then ignore them. Don't feed them dinner, don't include them in whatever you are doing. Ignore them until they leave. It's tough, but you have to be rude to people who are stepping over the proper boundaries. Best of luck to you, OP. Good luck finding a new job![/quote]

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