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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another point I'd like to throw into the ring is the fact that some women marry men they are never truly attracted to because they panic about the clock running out. In those situations the husband might do all the right things and be a great partner but still end up in a sexless marriage. I'm a woman FWIW but can we at least agree that this very common situation is not fair to the husband?
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Agreed, also it's just sad. I know 3 women who have married men they have ZERO physical attraction too, because they panicked that "time was running out."[/quote]

I know an example of this.  It was pretty clear she was marrying for stability (good provider).  She goes on and on about how she just naturally has a low libido.  It's pretty clear she's not attracted to her husband, but she won't even admit that to herself.  So he jumps through a million hoops to try to help her libido.

I don't think there's anything wrong with marrying someone you like more as a friend than as a romantic partner, but you should be honest with the person you are marrying.  If the other person does see you as a romantic partner, but you don't share that attraction, it's just selfish for you to decide for that other person that a sexless or low sex marriage is worth the stability.

In the example I know, my prediction is she ends up having an affair.  She'll be content to have the affair and keep her marriage going (because he is a very good provider).  She'll tell herself that he'll never find out.  But when he inevitably does, she'll give some BS line to her husband about how she needed that to jump start her libido.  The question is whether the husband will believe it or if he will finally get a clue.

I get that there are some abusive husbands out there.  My advice to women is to leave them.  I think that's usually the advice given.  I don't know where OP is getting people telling women to have sex with abusive husbands.  I think she's conflating two issues. 
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