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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my opinion It really depends on where the money is coming from. My wife doesn't work so if she ever did purchase a gift for me it would be from money that I myself earned and therefore I don't really see the item itself as a gift. Rather, on the few time in our marriage that she has actually purchased a gift for me, the more important aspect of the "gift" was the though or rather lack of thought she put into the "gift." The reason for this is that the because the money is from my earnings the only part of herself she put into the gift was her consideration for what I might need or want. In our case only once did she put any effort into the gift. It was the effort that made the gift special. Not the cost. And frankly the more expensive the gift when spending someone else's earning shows a profound lack of consideration for that other person.[/quote]

Gentle suggestion: price out how much a FT nanny costs, then add what a cook and housekeeper cost. I'll give you a hint: it's more than you earn and certainly isn't something you could afford. If you paid your wife for her services, then you would realize this.

Sadly (for your wife), you have a rather 1950s philosophy about marriage, work and finances. You also sound like someone who is incapable of being pleased or happy. I'm wondering if you are the DH from the thread about men who are selfish in bed?

Your wife probably gave up on buying you gifts specifically because of your obvious attitude problem.

I'm curious what kinds of gifts you buy for the woman you seemingly keep as your unpaid domestic servant? [/quote]

You are making a lot of assumptions here. My wife sets her own schedule. She enjoys arty type things and during the week (while I'm at work) she does to organ lessons on Tuesdays, Wednesdays are painting lessons, Thursdays she teaches piano to her sisters children (for free it more of a social thing between her and her sister). I carry my own cloths to the dry cleaners and do the majority of the cooking in our house and we have a house cleaning service.

I really don't understand why people find it so difficult to accept the fact that a husband works to support his family (including his wife). Why do you have to make it some sort of score card where the wife has been disenfranchised and is working at a disadvantage?[/quote]

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