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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - to answer a few questions:

1. I can carry a baby, but my eggs are bad so I cannot conceive a healthy child.

2. I'm 41; he's mid-50s. Married 3 1/2 years.

3. We asked my sister to donate because she's much younger than me. She was uncomfortable with it but agreed because she wanted to help. Ultimately she couldn't go through with it. My husband can't understand her decision and also faults my parents for not "being supportive" of him or maybe not stepping in, or... I don't know what. He just hates everyone related to me now.

4. 10:56 - your point about him projecting his anger on them because it wouldn't be acceptable to blame me and my rotten eggs is a wise insight.

5. Adoption is very expensive and can take years. We're too old. Nobody is going to give us an infant. Donor eggs are also extremely expensive. We've already spent a tremendous amount of money on failed treatments that haven't worked. We are not wealthy people.[/quote]

Thanks for clarifying OP. You're pretty young IMO, I can't imagine an adoption agency wouldn't want a happily married couple with financial stability who could take on the children in need. Yes, I've heard infants have waiting lists but its not impossible. As for all-over infertility issues I'm sorry. It sounds painful but your husband lashing out isn't helping. Your sister giving you her eggs is a BIG deal. Honestly, I'd be more comfortable donating my eggs to a family I never saw again over my own siblings just because of the sheer level of awkwardness knowing I'm both the mother and aunt of a child that I would see very very frequently. It's a highly personal decision and he has no right to demand it of her.[/quote]

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