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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW here. You say you have been married 5 years and have 2 little ones.  For me, and many of my friends, that was the most difficult time of marriage.  When you have more than one kid and they are both under 5 (and I bet for you, if you've only been married 5 years, they are both 3 and under), it is a lot of work.  The kids have different nap schedules, they have different needs as at that age, they are very developmentally different.  On top of that, I had a husband who expected everything to be the same.  I remember seriously thinking about divorce as we just were not on the same page.  It was easier when he was out of town on a business trip.  However, I fortunately had good friends to talk to and I found out that what I was going through was quite common and if we could make it to the other end, we would be good.  Well, the kids are now 11 & 12 and life is great!  While I am that much older, I have a lot more energy as the kids don't need me like they did when they were young. Well, they need me, but in a different way - it is not so draining.  I now have energy for my husband and it is all good. That said, we never stopped having relations.  I made it a point to do it at least 1x a week (or more if I had a good week) as, while I considered divorce I was not convinced that was the direction I wanted to go. I knew that if I rejected him too consistently he might be the one considering divorce.

Anyway, your kids are young - if you want a date night, you hire a babysitter and go out on a date. Don't say you want a date and then ask her to make all of the arrangements. That also used to make me crazy! If you want it, take the initiative.

Good luck.

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