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[quote=Anonymous]I personally do not find the suggestions to farm out help useful. Au pairs are expensive and so is dental school. Pretty sure if they had the money for that none of this would be an issue! And who has family who can just drop their own life to come help two adults run the one they created? Not me. Op and her husband but mostly him need to figure this out. He has a ton of support from OP and STILL blames her and the kids for him not doing well in school and that's bullshit. Going back to school with kids is hard but op did it and plenty of us in this thread have done or are doing it.

When I went back to grad school I made a promise and a commitment that this would not be a drain on my family nor would it be a waste of the time taken from them for me to do it. So I bust my ass making sure I do well in these classes because to take this time and money to do it, I better do it right. And if it were causing significant hardship for my spouse or kids, I would say maybe I need to wait a bit or maybe it's not for me. If he's behind 2 months in with his wife pulling so much of the load for him, he's probably not cut out for this. And don't let him play the "i feel guilty I'm not helping more" card. No he isn't. He's panicking because he knows you're doing everything you can and he's still not able to do well. [/quote]

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