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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If OP's son has mental health issues...then maybe it's for the best.  It sounds like the dad is awful anyway.

I'm sorry OP.[/quote]

OP here.  Thanks.  I think my dad likely has been playing both sides and pitting us against each other.  He told me a few weeks ago that he told my stepmother, "You took my grandson away from me" because of her behavior.  I'm sure this is stoking the anger against me.  I tried to arrange to go visit them (they live a plane ride away), but my dad said, "Your stepmother said that she'll go visit her friends if you come visit us."  It's a really dysfunctional relationship all around, but I still try to maintain the relationship.  Luckily I'm in therapy trying to work through this.[/quote]

I'm confused.  If they live a plane ride away, then why was it even necessary to discuss her son being around your son?  Was she asking for her son to stay with you or for you to stay with him?

If you don't feel comfortable leaving your child with her step brother, that's fine.  I don't understand why you had to tell her that.  It sounds like they don't live near you.  So was your son even potentially going to be around your brother in law?[/quote]

Sounds like the Op and her family were flying in for visits and maybe the stepmom was expecting the kids to spend time unsupervised together.  Op wasn't comfortable with that and tried to negotiate some boundaries.....and negotiations did not go smoothly to put it mildly.

Since it's the stepmom's house, her rules apply though.  And if stepmom is done with Op, either temporarily or permanently, Op is just going to have to accept it. Hopefully, with a little time things will work out between them.[/quote]

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