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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to me with my sister and her entire family, including her daughter/my niece, who has a family of her own. [b]Nothing is bad enough to "cut off" a family member[/b] - it's just a terrible shame, especially for the children involved who are just innocent bystanders.

After several years now I have yet to find what it takes to resume communication, despite my own efforts. If you figure it out, OP, please let us know![/quote]

-1,000  I disagree.  If another person is toxic to you or consistently makes you miserable, then that's reason enough alone to cut them off.

A person might seem fine to you but be toxic to another person.  With families, that's especially the case because often a person can be really nice and great with one family member but manipulative and horrible with another one.  Family dynamics are complicated.  A mother could be really kind and doting on one child, but she could be manipulative and judgmental and toxic to another.  Same with siblings.

People get to choose who they maintain relationships with.   Sometimes you have to cut off a person for your own sanity and well-being.   Sometimes it's better for both people involved.

As for OP, my guess is that this isn't the first time she's hurt her stepmother.  It's likely that all along there have been things that have upset the stepmother, but she has overlooked those things for the sake of the relationship.  My guess is this was the final straw.

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